It seems common to me that people supposedly fall in love very quickly and then mutually make the decision to get married right away. Well, my advice to you is, if you think that you are in love, wait it out a while. True love takes time to be revealed. Try letting the going get though first, then see how you feel, that`s the true test. So many married couples end up seeking marital help because they feel like the person that they married is different than the person they fell in love with.
It is wise to allow time and circumstances to teach you and your loved one who and where you really are. You may have been together for a couple months now and things appear to be going better than you can imagine. This person is unlike anyone you have ever been with and seems to have all the right qualities and personality traits that you’re looking for.
You both just can’t get enough of each other and want to spend every waking moment in each others presence. If this is the case, then wonderful! You may have found the perfect match. The question is, is has anything happened in these past couple months that has tested your love for one another? Has there been any trials and tribulation yet? Well, from my experience, the true love that I felt wasn’t exposed until the going got tough and I finally saw the true colors come out.
The reality of it is that people want to show their best character and qualities in the beginning of the relationship to attract the other person. Of course, it makes perfect sense. It is completely understandable why someone would want to be at their very best all the time. However, I can guarantee you that you will have a better understanding of this person being the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with, after you have seen them at their lowest. I would recommend to any couples who have just fallen in love and are considering getting married and want to have children to consider marriage family counseling first.
I’m not saying that you have to see a counselor but I would highly suggest that you both educate yourselves on marriage and what it all entails. You can learn how to save your marriage before it even begins. Most couples just want to dive right in and take the plunge. It takes time and soul searching to know who that person actually is inside. My advice is to save marriage until you both have seen all angles and sides to your loved one, then you will be able to tell if the love that you have for this individual is unconditional or not. When you unconditionally love someone there are no conditions, you love the good and the bad without trying to change who that person really is. You only want what is best for that person and not your own personal gain. So give it some time. Do a little research. A great site to reference on marriage help and tips is www.marriagemax.com. So honestly ask yourselves, are we really ready to become one heart, one soul and one mind? If so, then I wish you both nothing but life’s best, filled with much happiness and success. Good luck!
